Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

hi there

im korean and have been living in US for almost 4 years.

I've never in relationships with boys. maybe i wasnt really interested in going into serious relationship. :p

well, nowadays i want a boyfriend who's humorous, gentle, and nice. How do u approach white guys? im kinda shy toward boys..lol but once we know each other we share a lot.

is there somethring wrong with me? im 5'3, average, not-that-long black hair. im americanized and have diverse friends but mostly hang out with fobs.. :p

I need advice :) thanks all!

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

I don't think anything is wrong with you, you have every right to be a little nervous not knowing anybody that well. And to try to get know white guys in America or Anywhere for that matter is really tricky. Because when you look for a special someone and it don't matter where you look, you will have someone try to play you just because your new and foreign. I'm telling you honestly that you will have big time trouble if your not careful in who you choose. I'm not just talking about white guys or America, but usually when you are of different Back ground and your in a different place of environment you will have so many people flocking around you to see who will be the first to take advantage of you and then brag about it then leave you.

I am telling you this for your good, but people wherever they are always thinks that someone from other places that act differently and think differently are easier to get to, to trick or munipulate them because they can't have their way with somebody of their same group and background.

people like that piss me off, so be careful and good luck to you in your search, you will eventually find someone good to you and I hope soon enough so you won't have to deal with a bunch of crappy people that just wants to get in your pants.

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

make frnds iwth the guy u want to b and later tell whats in ur heart

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

Just approach a white guy like you would any other guy... u can type in "teenager" quite well, so I'm assuming youre not lying when u say ur americanized. If you become friends with the guy first, it will probably work out better and be easier. Don't worry, guys are shy a lot too :P Like me. Just be cool, take deep breaths, and go for it.

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

Best advice is to leave us guys alone during you schooling years. What ever you do don't go to bed with one because they will break your heart. Koream women are very beautiful and very desireable to sex hounds.

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

if you're shy, you might find it easier to meet someone through online dating. if you know someone that you're interested in, you'll have to give some indication that you're interested in them romantically... some guys are dumb when it comes to signals so you might have to beat them over the head. you could try the club scene but that's usually a meat market and probably not what you're looking for.

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

well, in approaching guys... be friendsly but dont throw urself at them.. like keep it normal.. dont show signs that you like them or like you're aggrasive coz they're gonna hate it and they'll just make fun of you.... maybe u have to somehow work on ur being shy.. i mean.. try not to be "reserved" like you know.. when they talk to you,. talk to them and like just make a conversation or if they are tellling yo something, show them you;re interested in what they are talking about... and remember, everything starts in being friends... i hope i was able to help.. goodluck!

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

Before serious relationship, you need to go through all the hanging out, dating, progressing, sharing, understanding, tolerating.... and lots more, find someone right for you is not about an ethnic opinion, I'm of Chinese Origin, my bf is Caucasian, interracial relationship is captivating and satisfying, I hope you will soon find a nice guy.

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

First of all, do not approach the man because you will only give them the upper hand but instead let them approach you by making yourself approachable by a smile, a gesture, or by a mere glance. That way you will not come as the one submitting but the one inviting. From there, you make the judgement whether or not he is friend-material and then from there you can progress to a relationship. Second, being shy is not necessarily a negative trait because too many it may seem quite attractive, making them feel as though they can "Change your world" or make a difference. Then third (which extends from my first point), do not always stick to a strict standard because sometimes in doing so you will only get a temporary effect: A man being the perfect example of what you seek for and later on turns into a complete fake. Leave room for diversity. Good luck!

Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

Living in US for 4 years, I am sure you pretty much learned your ways around, and familiars with the America's traditions by now...

For little information's you've shares above; I perceived you are very pretty and smart...there is no sweat to find a white man for boyfriend! There are majority WM prefer petite women, this would give you great chance to find a good man.

Here are some great tips; conduct yourself with dress proper appearance, good manners, friendly, honest and self respect is the key to approach your man. There are public places to meet people, such of Church's, libraries, and social clubs. look around you would spot easily if you see someone you like to meet, eyes contact with him and if he does, give him a big smile, I bet his attention would focus toward you. Don't worry about being shy, once you have your eyes on somebody you may like, the shyness would go away. Good luck!

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Shy asian girl here: need advice on relationships?

i have had a few girlfriends that were asian... i liked it since i feel they were refreshing relationships... basically the difference in culture... anyway there are alot of guys here that would take advantage of you being that you're not originally from here.. i would say the best thing to do is either find people through online sites such as friendster.com or myspace.com and give them time before you go meet them or (and i know how corny this will sound to some people but i have found girls this way) take a hobby you have and find out where people may gather for it and "filter" thru people to see who you may like.. for instance i like poetry so i may go to the library or a bookstore with poetry or a poetry reading somewhere and try to start up a convorsation with someone... but i too am very shy and i usually did it online lol.. but it has been productive.. i may be single now but i also dont rush relationships.... i have in the past and only got hurt so the best thing to do is once you find someone try to spend alot time with them before getting serious and make sure they are the kind of person you want to be with.. you can do that by talking to thier friends once you get to know them... i left girls that way... not to put a damper on the subject but sometimes talking to their friends you can find answers to questions you may not get from them and these things could be negative but at the same time you can find out things that may make you want them more..... ok i talked your ear off enough lol